Ihaleakala hew len biography

Cat: Ihaleakala, when I met you in 1985, I’d just started private practice after working as a counselor in agencies for a couple of years. When you said, “All therapy is a form of manipulation,” I thought, “Sheez!

What am I supposed to do now?”

I knew you were right, so I almost quit before my career had barely begun! Obviously, I didn’t quit.

DR. IHALEAKALÁ HEW LEN, THE MASTER OF HO’OPONOPONO

But that statement completely changed the way I work with people.

Ihaleakala: Manipulation happens when I (as a therapist) come from the idea that you are ill and I am going to work on you. On the other hand, it’s not manipulation if I realize that you are coming to me to give me a chance to look at what’s going on in me.

There’s a big difference.

If therapy is about your belief that you’re there to save the other person, heal the other person, or direct the other person, then the information you bring will come out of the intellect, the conscious Mabel Katz - Wikipedia GIPOZ